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Invisible Armor: Operational Security and Personal Security Measures for Online Dating

Online Dating





As the digital era continues to shape our lives, online dating has emerged as a common avenue for forming relationships. The allure of convenience and the potential for love are hard to resist. However, this new realm of digital matchmaking comes with its own set of security challenges. This article aims to navigate the intersection between online dating and security, exploring how principles of Operational Security (OpSec) and Personal Security (PerSec) apply to the world of online dating.

OpSec is a process that involves identifying critical information and analyzing threats and vulnerabilities to protect that information. In the realm of online dating, this translates to identifying what personal information is sensitive and devising strategies to protect that data. On the other hand, PerSec consists of a set of measures that individuals can take to ensure their safety and privacy.

It's easy to dismiss the importance of OpSec and PerSec in online dating, but every detail shared can potentially contribute to a bigger picture that one might intend to reveal. Here's how you can integrate both OpSec and PerSec in your virtual interactions:


Spotting Red Flags:

Pay close attention to inconsistencies in a potential match's profile or communications. Be observant if your match only communicates at specific or odd times - this could be a potential red flag.


Verifying Information:

Don't shy away from doing a little detective work. Use search engines, social media platforms, and even paid background check services to verify the information shared with you.


Understanding Scam Techniques:

Educate yourself about the most common online dating scams and the tactics used by cybercriminals


Trusting Your Instincts:

If something doesn't feel right, trust your instincts and take a step back.


Video Chat Before Meeting IRL:

Before meeting in person, consider a video chat. Seeing your match in real-time can help you pick up on cues that aren't apparent in a text chat.

Personal safety is paramount when transitioning from online chats to in-person meetings. Choosing public locations, having your own transportation, informing a trusted person about your plans, and sharing your date's details with a trusted contact are all crucial steps in creating a safety net.


Choosing a Safe Meeting Place:

Public places with plenty of people around are the best places for your first few dates. Avoid going to each other's homes or secluded areas until you've built a substantial level of trust.


Having Your Own Transportation:

Having control over your transportation gives you the flexibility to leave whenever you feel uncomfortable. Be wary of anyone who insists on picking you up or dropping you off.


Informing a Trusted Person About Your Date:

Before going on a date, inform someone you trust about your plans, including who you're meeting, where you're going, and when you expect to return.


Share Your Date's Details:

Share the details you have about your date, including their name, photo, and contact details, with a trusted contact. This is not about suspicion but about exercising caution


Use a Check-In App or Safety Feature:

Many dating apps now have safety features that allow friends to track your location during a date. Alternatively, there are various safety apps that you can use to check-in or send an emergency signal.


Stay Sober:

Alcohol and drugs can cloud your judgment, making it easier for you to miss red flags or make decisions you might regret later

Online dating needn't be a leap into the unknown. By integrating the principles of OpSec and PerSec into your online dating practices, you can enjoy the experience while ensuring your safety. Remember, the goal is not to create an impenetrable fortress around yourself, but rather to build a discerning gate that lets in genuine connections while keeping potential threats at bay.

At its core, online dating is an avenue for exploration and connection. It’s a platform that bridges geographical divides, broadens social circles, and introduces us to people we might not otherwise meet. But just as we would take measures to safeguard ourselves when dating in person, we should apply the same care and attention in the digital sphere.

In the words of Robert DeNiro's character in the movie 'Heat,' 'Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.'  When it comes to online dating, if you sense a whiff of deception or scam, be ready to cut ties in an instant. Your safety and peace of mind are paramount.

About the Author

Daniel Boiling has built a career safeguarding individuals and organizations against threats both visible and invisible. An expert in the field of security and online dating, he has decades of real-world experience in physical and personnel security. His role as a thought leader at Aditus showcases his breadth of expertise, encompassing everything from personal protection and operational security to risk assessment.

Always on the cutting edge of online dating security, Daniel maintains profiles on every dating app—for, ahem, research purposes. He understands that in our digital age, security isn't just about physical presence but also about the unseen and often overlooked vulnerabilities in our interconnected lives.


Through his insights, he aims to empower individuals and businesses with the knowledge and tools necessary to protect themselves and thrive in a world where love and safety should coexist harmoniously.

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